Wife Life Wednesday: Bacon

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For the past two months, God’s love has looked a lot like bacon.

Yes, bacon.

That most delicious and smelly-good piece of heaven on earth.

I digress.

Marriage is not always easy. And we (I) do not always make it easy for others to love us unconditionally. Mark, my husband, has had to walk with me through a few years of chronic illness already – though, thankfully, I no longer have to worry about chronic fatigue.

This has been a different kind of year for us – because we’ve never really been a couple in the same country when I’ve been truly well. It’s been a year of adventure for me – trips to Malaysia, Texas, and Fiji PLUS working with our youth group here in New Zealand. It’s been good, and God is in all of the refreshing.

But on the last trip I took – a youth group trip to Fiji – I found myself sick with an unidentified virus. And there was no way to communicate with Mark. Or anyone for that matter.

I hope to tell you more about that trip later on.

Mark met me at the airport when I came home, and I was put in a wheelchair to be taken out to the car. I cried and cried and cried, and for about a month I was not myself. I was just a girl recovering from a virus, healing inside and outside from my week away from Mark.

It's time forI am here to say, on “Wife Life Wednesday”, that God’s love can be found in the little things. God’s love can be found anywhere – from Fiji to Texas to New Zealand and back again. God’s love can be found in marriage – whether in the good times or the bad. I am lucky that in the good times, I can see God’s love in my husband. I know that it not always the case.

Mark brought me breakfast in bed every single morning for almost two straight weeks. He brought or prepared all my meals for me that entire month.

He loved me unconditionally, daily showing me the love of God through his actions.

And every morning for breakfast, he made me bacon.

Yes, bacon.

I hope that today, you are able to count your blessings. To see or remember something good in your life – whether you are married or not.

And maybe… maybe you can cook up some bacon tomorrow morning for breakfast.

 

How to Reflect on 2017

reflecton2017Today marks the end of something. Hopefully, that something – 2017 – was good. We are celebrating the beginning of a New Year, but there’s always a little bit of nostalgia that comes with New Year’s Eve.

When I was younger, I used to stay awake on the eve of my birthday and spend time saying goodbye to that year of my life. It’s quite silly looking back – that a five year old would spend a couple hours laying awake in bed, saying goodbye to a part of her life. But, I love the idea of appreciating what you have had, and what you have now.

It’s possible that appreciating the past – both the good and the bad – will help you move on to something really good. It may bring you closure where you need it. And it might help you let go of the past.

I got better this year from a long run of chronic invisible illness. But there was a lot of hopelessness in the middle. Today, I want to remember both. I want to accept healing and let go of hopelessness.

On Christmas Day, I set out all my presents and I looked at them. I allowed time to be thankful. I knew it was so important to accept all the thoughts and the love that people put into them. It’s important for me to know that people care and to know that I am worth loving. This is one lessons that I’ve learned in 2017 and I want to hold on to it.

With all this in mind, here are four ways that you (and I) can reflect on the past year. It’s pretty simple:

Four Ways to Reflect on Last Year

 

1) Remember the bad. Let it go.
2) Remember the good. Be grateful.
3) Remember 2017’s lessons to you. Hold on.
4) Look forward to next year. Be excited!

Life gives us pain. It gives us sickness and it gives bad health to those we love.

But, there is hope. Every day is a new day. And every year is just waiting for us to make a fresh start.

Happy 2018, readers.

Love,
Ashley Ruth